Sunday, October 19, 2008
friendships are simple yet complicated..
in primary school, the definition of friends are ppl who play hopscotch/tag/big balloon, eat lunch together, throw erasers during exams to each other, and just have pure fun. with the occasional "i dun friend you", but eventually are still friends.
in secondary school, friends are those that listen to your rambles and help you solve them, write letters to each other and fold them in all sorts of ways, sit at jec after sch to gossip abt everything under the sun.
in junior college, kinda not much of an impression. darkest years of my life coz struggling in school. had a bunch of talk-crap friends and days passed talking crap everday.
in univeristy, friends kinda just come and go with every passing sem. everyone's schedule is different, having different committements, different modules. wondered where will i be if i hadnt join cac, coz those closer friends i've made are from there.
friendships need the effort to maintain them though it's hard. when you keep to one group of friends then the other will feel neglected, but the time realizations hits, it's kinda too late to do anything.
ponder over this qns, "if you wan to go out to do anything, who will you ask?" i thought for a while, but cant give a definite answer. think that everyone will be busy at times, and hard to be sure if the person will wan to go out and rot with me.
wondering why friends can be super close during a period of time and drift apart after a while. think that happens to me too. that's why i kinda 自闭 occasionally. assumptions can cause damages to friendships.
treated someone as your good friend but you dunno if the other person feels the same way? friends are friends no matter what happens,; the thin line that separates good friends and friends keep changing, to the extent that i dun bother too much abt it.
i still hold firm that true friends will be those who are there when you need them, even if not in close contact for a long time. not sure if this is true, but yet i believe that everyone will do that, and i hope i will be able to be there for those who need my support at times.
juz food for thought
in primary school, the definition of friends are ppl who play hopscotch/tag/big balloon, eat lunch together, throw erasers during exams to each other, and just have pure fun. with the occasional "i dun friend you", but eventually are still friends.
in secondary school, friends are those that listen to your rambles and help you solve them, write letters to each other and fold them in all sorts of ways, sit at jec after sch to gossip abt everything under the sun.
in junior college, kinda not much of an impression. darkest years of my life coz struggling in school. had a bunch of talk-crap friends and days passed talking crap everday.
in univeristy, friends kinda just come and go with every passing sem. everyone's schedule is different, having different committements, different modules. wondered where will i be if i hadnt join cac, coz those closer friends i've made are from there.
friendships need the effort to maintain them though it's hard. when you keep to one group of friends then the other will feel neglected, but the time realizations hits, it's kinda too late to do anything.
ponder over this qns, "if you wan to go out to do anything, who will you ask?" i thought for a while, but cant give a definite answer. think that everyone will be busy at times, and hard to be sure if the person will wan to go out and rot with me.
wondering why friends can be super close during a period of time and drift apart after a while. think that happens to me too. that's why i kinda 自闭 occasionally. assumptions can cause damages to friendships.
treated someone as your good friend but you dunno if the other person feels the same way? friends are friends no matter what happens,; the thin line that separates good friends and friends keep changing, to the extent that i dun bother too much abt it.
i still hold firm that true friends will be those who are there when you need them, even if not in close contact for a long time. not sure if this is true, but yet i believe that everyone will do that, and i hope i will be able to be there for those who need my support at times.
juz food for thought
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